Welcome, Fellow Black Bonnet Girls (BBG),

👋🏾It’s Kiarra — a Black Bonnet Girl learning, unlearning, and softening in real time.
What started as a space for flash fiction stories—tender vignettes capturing the beauty and complexity of life through the lens of Black girls and women—has grown into something more layered. Now, Black Bonnet Girls is a home for both creative storytelling and personal reflection.

Through my Lessons from My 20s series, I’m peeling back the curtain on what it means to grow up, love deeply, heal loudly (or quietly), and navigate the in-between spaces of becoming. Some entries are journal-style letters to myself. Others are fictional windows into truths I’m still learning how to name.

Whether you’re here for the stories or the soul work—or both—this space is for you. For the ones who feel deeply, reflect often, and are learning to give themselves the softness they once denied.

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Entry 12: For The Sake Of The Greater Good

Thinking back to the sacrifices I’ve made in the name of some greater good gives me goosebumps— it’s a haunting thought that makes me feel like I’ve killed parts of myself to move forward or to do what was necessary. In the moment, it didn’t feel like it.

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 176 min read

Entry 11: Healing In Motion

Healing is a train that continues chugging and chugging away, with occasional stops and checkpoints, but no real destination. Once you heal from one thing, you’re on to the next.

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 153 min read

Entry 10: From Surviving To Thriving

I think I eased into the land of living when, in 2021, surprisingly, in the midst of the pandemic. I was 21, still unsure about a lot of things, and still worrying about all things, but I felt like I’d lay my hustle down and set it aside. Me surviving is me hustling — to get through the day, to check off the to-dos and the expectations, and carry multiple loads that reach the heavens. It’s the nights I plop into bed feeling mentally exhausted, with each ounce of my bones a

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 133 min read

Entry # 9: Success Beyond The Numbers

I used to believe that to be successful, you always had to be “on”. You had to be well put together in body, mind, and soul. You needed both beauty to charm people and the brain to show them there’s more than this pretty face. There was little room for mistakes, and less for vulnerability. What mattered was showing up and bringing results to the table each and every time. I’m learning success goes beyond the numbers — it’s a balance between mind and muscle, brain and hear

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 112 min read

Entry 8: Anxiety Fuels My Betrayal

Those who know, know. Anxiety is like the best friend you never asked for and the critic over your shoulder that you just can’t shake. My anxiety is sometimes the loud, prominent, and nagging instigator behind self-betrayal. It’s saying no to things I actually do want, to the places I actually do want to go, or the opportunities I do want to explore. Like light dimming to make space for darkness, the inner Yes is shut down by the firm No of my Anxiety.

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 93 min read

Entry 7: Healing In Progress

Healing is, was realizing that people can’t give what they don’t have. It’s learning — yes, learning as in I’m still doing it — that maybe they gave their best. Maybe I wanted more, or expected more. Love? Attention? Understanding? But it wasn’t in their cup to give.

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 62 min read

Entry #6: Progressing Rather Than Arriving

I think one of the few things I’ve always been sure of is the uncertainty and unexpectedness of life. I can’t say I truly ever let myself think or feel as if I’ve arrived or finished, because then I’m inviting life to humble me, and show me just how far I have to go.

Lessons From My 20s

Kiarra

May 13 min read

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“We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans – because we can. We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings.”
– Maya Angelou

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Entry 12: For The Sake Of The Greater Good

Entry 11: Healing In Motion

Entry 10: From Surviving To Thriving

Entry # 9: Success Beyond The Numbers

Entry 8: Anxiety Fuels My Betrayal

Entry 7: Healing In Progress

Entry #6: Progressing Rather Than Arriving

“We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans – because we can. We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings.”
– Maya Angelou

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Entry 12: For The Sake Of The Greater Good

Entry 11: Healing In Motion

Entry 10: From Surviving To Thriving

Entry # 9: Success Beyond The Numbers

Entry 8: Anxiety Fuels My Betrayal

Entry 7: Healing In Progress

Entry #6: Progressing Rather Than Arriving

“We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans – because we can. We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings.” – Maya Angelou

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“We write for the same reason that we walk, talk, climb mountains or swim the oceans – because we can. We have some impulse within us that makes us want to explain ourselves to other human beings.”
– Maya Angelou